When we are scared, we act out. We direct our fear at another person when what we truly want is to be heard and understood. Or, we may need information and clarity but we don’t know how to get it so we react unnecessarily.
Ultimately we wish to have our needs met, to feel supported and held. When this isn’t immediately available we jump to conclusions, or play God. This places stress on our bodies, our relationships and our lives.
Noticing when we’re being taken over by fear happens only when we slow down, when we stop to look at the root causes of our negative thinking. Then we can be at choice about our response and our mood.
To choose our words and behaviors mindfully inevitably creates a sense of safety. This leads to feelings of trust and well-being. It allows us to feel supported as we relate to others and to circumstances we cannot control.