When someone hurts us, either intentionally or unintentionally, we have a right to decide how we process the experience. Our feelings may include grief, anger, sadness, confusion. Some of these may express somatically as our bodies sift through and try to discharge any unwanted energy. We may feel unsettled and physically ill while this happens. We may be tempted to believe that these are permanent states, but they rarely are. Nothing is fixed, all things ebb and flow.
While sitting with these various emotions we may or may not expect or wish for an apology, an acknowledgement of our feelings. This is natural. The issue arises when we make more of an apology than it actually is. When we give it, or its messenger, special powers — when the apology becomes a way to negate our own truth.
We cannot continue to swallow what isn’t true. When we do this we literally poison ourselves; we inherit illnesses that are not ours and we lose our way. Our sense of self becomes blurred and we mimic the actions of a ghost which means that we exist only in the periphery.
When we take the energy of invisibility and we invert it we get something entirely, beautifully different. We remain unharmed as the apologetic other enters our space because we know who we are. Our loyalty is not something we owe. Our soul belongs only to us.