Acting As If

You know when it’s time for change, your body lets you know. You may choose to ignore the signs because you’re afraid of what change might mean but at the end of the day, there’s no denying it.

If you’ve been at this job or in this relationship for a while it can be even more difficult. Unknowingly, you may be re-creating a childhood dynamic. You have become accustomed to the routine, attached to particular patterns. (You take the same train to the same stop every weekday at approximately the same time. In the office you sit at the same desk, see the same group of people and perform largely the same tasks.) You may simultaneously cling to this routine and wonder why you can’t achieve a sense of wellbeing, why your mood is dark and you feel emotionally hung-over. Why you are chronically blue.

A friend once asked me, “Is the worst thing that can happen really the worst thing?” Probably not.

Reluctance to start over is the central reason you stay stuck in situations you have outgrown, situations which may have become toxic. You have no idea yet what starting over means but sameness you can rely on. Acting as if it means that you take a leap of faith, honor your intuition and trust in divine guidance. Looking honestly at your fears – and observing which are likely just other people’s projections – helps to re-frame your approach to change. Sometimes you have to jump because that is the only way the net will appear.