So often what we’re reacting to in the present is really a visceral response to something that happened in the past. These triggers are real but they’re not the actual reason for our unhappiness. What they give us, though, is an opportunity to examine the original cause and origin of the wound. They are worth looking at and spending time with because they offer glimpses into emotional states that elude us.
Stopping to look lets us become a witness; we take a step back from participating in order to get a better view. Contained inside of that pause is a deeper understanding of our patterns. Typically, these are old and ingrained behaviors that continue to injure us. They are unconscious reactions that we repeat over and over again in hopes of achieving a different result.
When we don’t get what we desire we keep manifesting situations that will let us continue to act out. It’s a cycle that leaves us feeling drained and disappointed. When faced with things that push our buttons, altering our approach allows us to be resilient, stay curious. We also harm less and love more.