Our intimacy is ours to shape. We decide its texture, its essence, how it manifests in our life. If something has occurred which makes us question our ability to trust, we may be in the process of redefining our relationship to intimacy.
Believing we will know what the next steps should be restores our faith in healing. Listening to our intuition about what we need allows us to practice appropriate self-care. This is the foundation of our health and well-being.
When we feel unsure or afraid, our bodies tense up and we may feel closed off to others and to love. Noticing this, we accept where we are on our journey without judgement. We simply observe our experience and ask to be guided in whatever way feels right to us.
Checking in with others about what intimacy means to us also facilitates our recovery. It lets others in in ways that are nurturing and safe. These connections serve as necessary anchors and aid us in reclaiming aspects of our identity that may have been affected by loss or trauma.