Anxiety as Placeholder
When we experience a traumatic event, there are often feelings of dissonance. Our insides and our outsides seem not to match. To try and reconcile that can be psychically and even existentially painful. We sometimes call this “anxiety” but this is only shorthand for a complex psychosomatic process.
And we rarely talk about it. Anxiety is considered a disorder and often treated with medication. While anti-anxiety medication can be incredibly helpful, when we take these drugs we miss out on the significance of our symptoms.
These messages of the body and mind have information for us: they signal to us when we feel unsafe, when there is too much emotional charge, that a deliberate pause is needed.
Respecting our needs starts with recognizing that those needs exist. When we’re able to do that, we meet the truth of who we are. Healing reveals itself, and fear melts into compassion. Hope awakens in us because we know that growth and recovery are possible.