Limiting thoughts say things like: I don’t have what it takes to be in a relationship; I’m not attractive, lovable, or good enough. To some extent, we all encounter these thoughts. At different times in our life they may be more pronounced, particularly during major points of transition. Undoubtedly, they get in the way of experiencing our highest self: they restrict flow and interrupt our embodiment of pleasure.
Negative self-talk directly impacts how we show up for others, and puts strain on our relationships. How can it not? It may seem like limiting thoughts are contained but they inevitably touch every interaction we have. I speak to many people who tell me they wish for greater intimacy but when it comes to taking a risk the challenge seems too great. They consistently self-sabotage as a way to stay “safe.” The armor is so built up that it has become comforting. Still, there’s a price to pay when we hide from the fullness of who we are.
If what we want is connection and intimacy but some part of us believes we aren’t capable of that, then it will be difficult to manifest and sustain harmony, excitement and curiosity in our relationships. We will, consciously or unconsciously, push people away. We will keep them at arm’s length when what we really desire is to deepen the connection and bond.
All sentient beings are fundamentally lovable because they are comprised of love. Limited thinking cuts us off from that experience and deprives us of joy. It is a form of dissociation, a way of leaving, fragmenting the self.
We know, however, how to come back. How to re-meet our essence through the breath, through this body. We have done it before. If sensuality can be forgotten, then it can also be remembered.